Your Emotions: Understanding That Your Feelings Are Normal and Valid

Everyone experiences a wide range of emotions every day. Sometimes those feelings can be overwhelming or confusing. It’s easy to question whether your emotions are justified or if you should be feeling differently. The truth is your feelings are normal and valid. Recognizing this can help you better understand yourself and improve your emotional well-being and overall mental health!

A calm moment of reflection in a quiet space

Why Your Feelings Matter

Feelings are signals from your mind and body. They tell you what is happening inside and around you. When you feel sad, anxious, angry, or happy, these emotions reflect your response to events, thoughts, or memories. Instead of ignoring or judging your feelings, it helps to accept them as part of your experience.

For example, feeling nervous before a big presentation is normal. It shows you care about doing well. Feeling upset after a disagreement with a friend is valid because it means the relationship matters to you. These emotions are not flaws or weaknesses; they are natural reactions.

Common Misconceptions About Emotions

Many people believe they should only feel positive emotions or that negative feelings mean something is wrong with them. This belief can lead to suppressing emotions, which often causes more stress and confusion.

Here are some common myths about feelings:

• Myth: Strong emotions mean I’m overreacting.

Reality: Intensity varies by person and situation. Your feelings are your own and deserve respect.

• Myth: I should be able to control my feelings all the time.

Reality: You can manage how you respond, but emotions themselves are automatic.

• Myth: Feeling sad or angry means I’m weak.

Reality: Experiencing a full range of emotions is a sign of emotional health.

Understanding these points helps you treat your feelings with kindness instead of criticism.

How to Validate Your Emotions

Validating your emotions means recognizing and accepting them without judgment. Here are some practical steps:

• Name your feelings. Try to identify exactly what you feel. Instead of “I feel bad,” say “I feel frustrated” or “I feel lonely.” This clarity helps you understand your needs.

  
  

• Allow yourself to feel. Give yourself permission to experience emotions fully, even if they are uncomfortable.

  
  

• Avoid self-criticism. Remind yourself that emotions are natural and do not make you less capable or worthy.

  
  

• Express your feelings safely. Talk to a trusted friend, write in a journal, or use creative outlets like art or music.

  
  

• Seek support if needed. Sometimes feelings can be overwhelming. Talking to a counselor or therapist can provide guidance and relief.

  
  

Why Accepting Your Feelings Improves Your Life

When you accept your emotions as normal and valid, you build a stronger connection with yourself. This acceptance reduces inner conflict and helps you respond to challenges more effectively. You become more resilient and better able to communicate your needs to others.

For example, if you feel anxious about a change at work, acknowledging that anxiety allows you to prepare and seek support rather than ignoring the feeling and risking burnout. If you feel joy after an achievement, celebrating it boosts your confidence and motivation.

Your feelings are a valuable part of your human experience. Treating them with respect helps you live a more balanced and fulfilling life.

If you ever feel lost, confused or just want to talk to someone, please reach out. We have a team of wonderful therapists that can help guide you to live your best life! We are here for you! :)

Take care for now,

Alishia Ebel, LMSW

Owner/Founder, Plymouth Mental Health